Has a commercial or advertisement ever made such a huge impact on you that you couldn’t stop thinking about it? That’s what happened to me after seeing this new Dove commercial. Take a look.[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=XpaOjMXyJGk]
I have never cried during a commercial. I’m not counting those heartbreaking animal cruelty commercials, those don’t count. I’m talking about normal commercials. This Dove commercial did it for me. When the woman come in to see the two sketches of herself next to each other, I couldn’t help but cry.
I know, I’m so lame. I’m crying at a commercial. But this commercial resonated with me as I’m sure it has resonated with a lot of you as well. Especially for women, as society tends to be the toughest on us. Media and advertising has created a certain “perfect beauty ideal” that we always strive towards whether we realize it or not. It affects all females: adults and children, in terms of how we view ourselves – our body, our face, our hair, everything. The comparison trap that many of us fall into is a destructive one that usually leads to a deterioration of self-esteem and self-worth. Even if we don’t feel like our self-esteem is low, many times we still think of ourselves as being less than we truly are.
That’s what this commercial was getting at. We judge ourselves so much more harshly than we should. We criticize ourselves and exaggerate things about ourselves that we dislike. We focus on the negatives rather than being grateful for the positives. Rather than being grateful for having a healthy body and mind, we criticize and pick at our body for not being thin enough, muscular enough, pretty enough, feminine enough, etc. Being in this spiral of thought, we will never get away from thinking that we are simply not good enough.
But we are so much more than enough. We are good. We are healthy. We are talented. We are all unique in our own ways and that’s what makes us all so beautiful. It’s easy to compare ourselves to fitness models and swimsuit models, especially now that summer season is coming. We look down at our own thighs and bellies and we don’t see the rock-hard abs that the models are sporting in the catalogs. We get disappointed. We get discouraged. We contemplate going on another diet with hopes of getting rid of the extra fat, hoping we will stick to it so we can finally be able to be proud of how we look. So we can finally stop picking at our bodies. But that’s not how it works.
It’s the self-esteem that’s the issue here. It’s the self-confidence that we need to work on. Not the face, not the body. Without self-confidence, we will never feel happy with how we look, whether we are heavier or thinner, blonde or brunette, big nosed or small nosed. It doesn’t matter. If we do not have the core beliefs that we ARE good enough no matter what, we will never be able to satisfy our critical eye.
The journey to building a better self-esteem is self-acceptance. We must learn to love ourselves no matter what. We only have one body. We must learn to love it. To honor it. And to respect it.
PS. Thank you to Calm Healthy Sexy for linking to the video so I could see it.
Kammie wants to know:
What is your initial reaction to this Dove commercial?
Do you ever fall into the comparison trap?
Let me know in the comments below!